So, there's this nice person you met in the classroom. You pass the whole class laughing with them, talking about the material and fixing them. To see them once or twice a week for a few hours at a time does not seem enough, so you want to try to see them outside of the lesson.
You have an upcoming test and ask them if they want to study together. They say yes, make your plans, and puff … you have a study date!
First of all, what's a study date?
A study date usually means a date that someone has planned to study. This can be a good step between an informal meeting and a real date. It's also less stressful because you do not have to plan anything too extreme, since the overall goal is to study (and learn about your potential bae).
But how do you plan a study date?
First, choose a place where you can actually study. It may not be the best idea to ask for your date to go to a concert when you're planning to study. However, it can be somewhere on campus, like your dorm room or library, or it can be somewhere like a park or a cafe. Try to find somewhere where you can talk without disturbing others but can also concentrate.
I know that half of the reason you are inviting them to study is because you want to get to know this person better. Factor in a certain time to study and a little time to get to know each other.
If you decide to study in a diner, you can study while you wait for your food to arrive, but once you start eating, you can talk about things other than the class. Or, once you've finished studying, suggest to tease, like a coffee or a dessert. The whole point of a study date is keep it random, so try to do something where you can be fun is serious.
What are you wearing?
Wear what makes you feel better! Attack with something random, as you will probably spend a lot of time sitting and studying. It is not a real date, so it is not necessary to spend time looking for the position and looking for endless images of Pinterest.
If this means leggings and a t-shirt for you, then it's perfect; or, it could mean a cute top and skirt. As long as it is something where you feel comfortableso you can wear whatever you want.
Ok, but how about when you go out?
Look for signs that this person is interested. Are they just talking about the course material and fixing the sheet directly? Or are they taking breaks to laugh and share stories and try to sit as close as possible? Do they seem to want to go out after finishing school or seem interested only in spending time with you studying?
If the person seems interested in you outside of the lesson, then he will show it. However, if they only seem to want to study, do not force them to actually act on the date of the study date.
No matter what you're studying, do not play stupid. We have seen this trope in the movies, such as Bad Girlsbut just because you're studying together does not mean you have to behave as if you did not know the material. Hopefully your classmate will appreciate the fact that you're smart, and if they do not, then that's not the person you want to walk around with anyway. Be the true version of yourself and your date will appreciate your honesty more than anything else.
Dates of all kinds can be super-stressful, but try not to put too much pressure on the date. At best, study and discover that you are super-compatible. In the worst case, you made a new friend and learned the notes for the lesson.
A study date should be random, and it depends on you and the other person, regardless of whether you want or want to say anything else. Try to live in the moment rather than focusing on whether you're talking too much or if they're staring at you because they're confused or interested.
The date is ending, now what do I do?
Ask them to go out again! You can suggest to study for the next test you have together if you want to keep it informal, or suggest to go for a coffee or a dinner. Try to think about what you talked about while taking a break from the study. Did they say they wanted to try that new restaurant behind the corner? Did you talk about your common interest in movies? Keep this in mind when you ask them to meet in the future.
Try to keep it random and make it look natural. Remember, the worst thing they can say is no, and if so, then it was not meant to be.
Did you have any study dates before? What did you do to make it feel more like an appointment? Are you finished going out again? Let us know in the comments below to help someone else!